Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
I am not a "troll" as thought I might be....I am a very happy wife and was aware of what had happened to him to an extent before we married but found it hard to think that our "justice" system would be so unfair in this matter...You do not know all the facts so I think that you can not factually base you beliefs of me or on this subject...I just came here asking some questions and know feel like I was questioned on the reason for being here....I hate to see anyone mistreated...or what I think might be mistreated...that was why I was asking the questions...It sounds to me like there are a lot of bitter people folks on this forum who like to judge on their past experiences in life... NO-I DO NOT WANT WHAT SHE HAS!!!!!...I could care less...God takes care of me and always has and will in the future...I do not need the money she was awarded to be happy or live...I just hate to see anyone who had worked hard all their life not represented in a court matter and taken advantage of in my way of thinking...Maybe she is entitled to what she gets...if so more power to her and may she be blessed and have a long happy life....As for me I go on with life and enjoy everyday, as it is a gift from God.... I do, thank the ones that responded to my questions without snide remarks and questioning my reason for being here....I would have felt the same was about anyone that I thought had been taken....even the ones that "judged" me...Judge not lest you be judge is my motto and what I was taught.... I will not be posting on these forums anymore since it is not what I thought it was...it seems that mainly it is for hateful people, full of spite and anger to blast others...I do not need that....Ofcorse as the case there are some good folks on here that are hurt by others... Well, I have said my thoughts...not I will go on with my beautiful day, and love my husband, wish all of you the best...and well sign out never to open myself to your rude posts again....I am thankful after 22 years of an abusive marriage I am not judgemental and openly try to hurt others feelings...based on my past experiences in a relationship...akc1956