I am so sorry that you have to go through what you are, but please take from me who has forgiven four times...Once a cheater, always a cheater and nothing you do will ever change that in him....I can assure you that she will not be his last either....They get a high when they have to sneak around...He doesnt pay the bills with her...It's just fun at the moment...Wait, he will tire of it and the excitement will soon go away and he will be either at your door or on to the next...I am now going through it again and believe me, you will never trust him. I have lived the last five years worrying each day if I will be blind sided again....He stopped answering my questions about some behavior that I remember from previous times and gets offensive...I knew then, this is happening again....I have had enough and moving on this time...I deserve better than that....You will never get over the deciet, so move on with your life...You havent been married long enough to reap anything from him....Again, much luck....Get some counseling for you and always remember, it's not your fault. It's him and not you.....