This book will focus on the rights each spouse has under certain laws, situations, and circumstances, and how the division of the property will be decided by the court or through negotiation.
Overstepping is to not follow her advice, or do anything without informing her first. Overstepping could be arguing endlessly with her about strategy, if you don't agree to that extent get a new atty. Bossing is telling her what to do, not asking. Keeping in close contact with her paralegal, following and getting copies of all docs, doing whatever you can to assist and save money will not piss her off. Ask her if it will, tell her you don't want to run your case but want to be very involved. Think of yourself has her paralegal's assistant. Most attorneys need all the help they can get, and good legal help is very hard to get!