Divorce Support Forums: going back to court:

At first I thought wow what a jerk, until I realized original order was only 2yrs ago and the kids were so young. Totally see y he agreed w/ exception of name change. Kids were too young for longer vis. divorce cost a lot and he probably got some bad counsel and lastly I am sure you bullied him as u r trying now. Which is probably y he went w/ dcfs route since it would not be out of his pocket, although wrong for doing it. I assume he was desperate. You are unreasonable 99%.
Joint custody he should get as their father he HAS a relationship w/ them. As for you taking them to the doctor or taking off when they are sick offer him the option to be involved as well. Switch off
Get off your new son case***your daughters relationship w/ their father should have nothing to do w/ your son. Why should they be penalized bc they have a 1/2 brother? No judge will allow that. As for you would not have had a 3rd child if you would have known their father/daughter relationship would have change is a LOAD. As much as you may have planned your son it was not based on your daughters father.
Before I go further ask yourself do you love your son more than your daughters?
Demand #2 they are 2 and 3 if they have homework you need to change their preschool. Maybe he did not know if he could handle the girls longer than a day and half before and now realizes he can---you should be thankful he loves his girls and did it that way instead of taking too much & needing to go backwards, not to mention it makes more sense now that he has them longer they are older. As for it interfering w/ xtra activities well he will have to take that responsibility as well, trust me games happen saturdays and sundays also. So what are u going to take those away? No he will have to participate and take them as well if it his wkend.
As for pu 5pm Sunday fine he will be getting them Friday 5pm fair and he should feed them bathe them and you just get them to bed by 8pm.
#4 Y should he not get the joys of holidays as well, 4get the court will give it to him anyway. Aren't the girls suppose to have the joy of his family as well? Won't your son get the joy of your current husband's family? He is their family and so is his family theirs you should not be allowed to take that away from him***u r extremely selfish and not for your girls sake. Exercise christmas in your home, please he probably agreed to this before you decided to get married so bc that changed so has his desire to have christmas at your home with your family and him be the outsider. When the kids were that lil that may have been reasonable, but not now, not later. So to get things straight your are allowed to change the circumstances, but he is not? O and I totally see how shopping is more important than spending the holiday w/ their dad. If that is the case give him 7pm the 24th to 7pm the 25th so you can have the 26th ready to shop w/ them. Why can't they go shopping with him? His mom? His future wife? I doubt the girls look forward to shopping on the 26th now, if they do later then maybe he will not be as unreasonable as you and allow them to go ahead w/ that tradition w/ grandma, but that should not determine the xmas holiday.
#6 taxes he gets on child you get the other. Let me ask you why have you not gave up child support so you can have your husband just be their dad? no you just want all the good without giving up anything.
#7SS# he should have it he IS THEIR DAD as much as you have lied to yourself that he is not. He will need it for the taxes anyway.
NO COURT in the world will give u stepdads bday or 1/2 brothers bday. You are lucky if your bday will make a difference and the girls bday will alternate like a holiday and when school becomes a problem bc he lives so far away then I am sure he will take them to dinner that evening by your home like 5-8 or whatever and that is it bc he is reasonable. But their bday's are to be treated like holidays and I hope you are not selfish and say he can take the bday girl, but not his other daughters so the girls can not spend their day together. I can totally see you doing that bc the order will probably be like dad bday on alternate yrs so since it is not the other then chances are he will not have a right to it, but you should be the unselfish mom that says take both bc they are sisters and should celebrate together.
Sure he is getting xtra days the ones that will be a bother to you when they start school and you have to either take off or find a sitter. How dare u I totally see y he gave in 2yrs ago. You are a calculating manipulator. O what about his bday? If you get yours he should get his well before stepdad gets his.
As for Macy parade etc, maybe he will b reasonable and say u know that is good for the girls go ahead I will take them after that. As for halloween he can entertain them in your neighborhood w/ their friends when they are older just like you will. o wait you would not want their friends to know they actually have a dad.
As for your son hunting for easter eggs well u can do it before they leave bc he will not have them before 8am anyway. This way they can have easter eggs w/ your kid ever holiday and their future 1/2 siblings from dad e/o. I think you get the best here.
I hope the girls call their dad dad, if they chose to call ur husband that then fine, but their dad is their dad and he loves them a lot more than ur husband ever will, i know that bc he has suffered from the start giving u full custody and allowing u to bully him for 2yrs.
Taking them for your vacation is not unreasonable allows them xtra time with their dad if it does not interfere w/ school. Grandparents do not have more rights then he does even if u would like. And you do not need to notify where you re going if it is some big secret. Just say going away these days u taking them or should I call my parents, ok thx. Remember the girlfriend may someday b stepmom and should have same rights as stepdad. Don't even come w/ he has been around since 20months or 2 months bc that sounds fishy to me. Why would u be w/ a man 2months after u gave birth 2 another mans child? Why should he be penalized bc you moved fast and he waited to continue with his life. why should he penalized bc he his marriage seriously while you took it as joke. Please you should respect him for that and be ashamed that you jumped in with another man so soon.
He should get 2 consecutive weeks.if he so choses why should u have so much control? You can tell him by april 1st I am taking these 2 weeks also, whoever says it in writing 1st gets it. The other weeks are fair game as long as they are not in school. If summer is his busy time then he should also be allowed to in writing by april 1st say I will forgo summer vacation and take it during winter or spring as long as it is not dec 24th or 25th.
Phone vis maybe hard at their age, but eventually it will be he can call when he wants and u can not prevent it and if you do he will ask the kids and the girls will say I did not get a message and you will be in contempt. The order will state REASONABLE phone visitation.
10minute pick up rule is ridiculous especially when you live an hour away and visitation will be Friday rush hour. It will be 1hr if he will be later he will need to call and you will have to be flexible and say ok u will be 65 minutes late no problem and yes this maybe that you, your husband and son will miss your reservation for dinner, but you will do it for your daughters and guess what you still have saturday night to go out. Things happen and you will need to work with it.
Veg diet was that what the kids had while you were married? or is this stepdads demands? you will probably need to explain this further.
He will be allowed to take the kids out of the state and will need to give you notice of when and where and you will have to do the same. Bc you will both have joint custody.
As for his friends in Seattle you will have to prove that he will but them in danger before that even goes on any order. Unreasonable is an understatement and I am a mom. I hope for the girls sake you were kidding about these controlling demands bc if you think this is reasonable you need to be stripped of custody all together bc you are putting a man (ur husband) above their dad.And you are putting your son above them. These are the kids that were forced out of their 2 parent home so accommodations should be made so they can enjoy the holidays and be with both parents. If it means waking up earlier christmas to open gifts on the yrs he goes with them or u having to save some of yours son gifts so he can open it with them when they get home then you will have to do that. Just like he will have to. Remember they are 50% him and 50% you.

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