It might be over, but the 'it' is just a part of your life, not all of it. You might find this hard, but I suspect you are wallowing in your grief. Have some self respect. Who exiled you to your room? You or her? In case you're wondering, I've been through this; I believe I'm just coming out of the 'hanging on by the fingernails stage'. My wife has been having an affair for 2 months now. She says she loves him, but loves me too 'in a different way'. She doesn't have me over a barrel at all, just our relationship. Separate the 2 things. Now. I'll be back to check progress.