Hey, I'm also struggling with how to act around my stbx-I hate to even call him that! I also do NOT want this divorce! I've done the whole crying, begging, pleading thing with him and he seems emotionless most of the time. I feel crazy because I can't even get angry with him because I hurt & miss him so much! I sometimes feel if I just be me & be nice like we should be to one another then that's best! But that's hard to do, especially when he comes to pick up the girls & just don't want him to leave. The no contact thing would be the best but impossible when kids are involved. He always seems to respond best when I act like I'm doing ok. I hate mind games!! Good luck-your wife should think twice-especially having a young daughter involved and a husband willing to work on the marriage!!