I'm 39 & she's 38. In hindsight, there were signs...but we never had any serious discussons to try to resolve them. I think that was our main problem. We didn't have a platform for discussing issues...just swept them under the mat. She never mentioned seperation or divorce once during the 11 yrs we were together. If I knew she was feeling this way, I would have got counceling straight away to help develop our communication skills with each other.