I can understand where 123 would be coming from. I mean, she's basically raised 2 kids for the past 10 years w/out the help of the father. I can see how she would be defensive and even scared that he's making these demands. Unfortunally for her, she's given a response without taking a look at the complete picture. Having the father make these "demands" could be a wonderful thing. That means he wants to take part in his children's lives. That's great for them! I hope it all works out.