Divorce Support Forums: Question for men that want more custody

[quote]Question for men that want more custody of their children. My stbx wants the minimal amount of time with our daughter, it's down to about 10%. I've seen some men posting on here that they want 100% or at least more custody. Can I ask what are your reasons for this? Do you want to be more involved with your children? Are you concerned with the environment your ex is providing for them? Do you want to pay less child support? Is it pay back at your ex? Combination of things? Just can't live without their little faces in your life? Would really like to know.

Also hats off to you for stepping up and wanting to be a dad instead of just a father. [/quote]

My reason is a very simple one: They are my kids also and it is my responsibility to raise them. Don't get me wrong it is a job I love but it boils down to its my job and I am equally qualified even if my plumbing is different than my exwifes.

Pay less child support? Ha I wish, not only do I pay more than a judge would force me to, more than if she had 100% custody, I also paid a huge premium in order to get her to agree to 50/50 custody. Yes she used the children to extort money from me, yes I agreed to pay it, and yes I would do it again and would have paid even more. So I don't think anyone would ever accuse me of being greedy in this case.

I am a little concerned about their environment when they are with there mother so that is part of it as well but she is not a bad person or a bad mother we just have some differing views on what is right and what is wrong, thus with me heavily invovled in their life they will have a more balanced perspetion of the world.

There are things that a can be only explained by a Dad. A Mom can take her son camping and have fun but it just different with a Dad, we understand things from his perspective, yes that ugly green tree frog is really cool the way he stick to anything. At the same time I can bake and play tea party with my daughter but I will not be able to explain things from a woman's perspective so I am gratefull her mother is involved.

I never asked nor wanted to be a single dad but those are the cards that were dealt to me and it is now up to me to make sure that my children do not suffer because of it. I love and cherish every minute I spend with them (even those times I am cleaning spagetti off the ceiling) and they have no fears about me ever being anything other than their Dad and fully emeshed in their lives.

Summation because I seem to have gotten long winded today: Despite popular belief, despite political correctness, etc etc It take both a Mother and a Father to properly raise a child. I know I will catch some flack for that but I didn't say who that mother and father needed to be but there must be one of each otherwise the children suffer.

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