I am the one who said it is about "being the right person" for yourself and for someone else, not "finding the right person".
I like your words that "moving on" doe not mean "resolve yourself to divorce". Yes I know that is certain if nothing can be done and she does not change her mind.
STBXW would complain that I did not understand her emotional, spiritual and physical needs, but would not tell me what I needed to change to meet them. It was something she left for me to figure out. I presume it is something she got from Oprah - she's an Oprah fan. Anyway I did not know what to do... I was on autopilot. But now I understand for the most part.