We moved three years ago and she tells me that's when the problems started. I can actually understand that, because I became depressed with the move and when I bounced back I held onto some bitterness. I tried to keep it under control and for the most part I did, but things would come up. I haven't brought it up now and I have been over it for at least two years, but that first year was tough on both of us. BTW - we don't have kids.