Divorce Support Forums: I Am The Only One Who Feels This Way?

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I can't help but feel like my life is over. I spent 16yrs of my life with one man, had a child and we were a family. I am too old to start over-no more children for me. I am too old to put up with other people's children-so no step parenting for me. I don't think marriage is a good idea for me-apparently I am just not cut out for it. So what do you look forward to for a future as far as having a relationship with someone again. Are we supposed to come to terms with this and put it in the past and forget about it. /quote]

H2bD'd, I had that feeling so badly I was completely overwhelmed by it for months. I'd kind of pinned my hopes on selling the house quickly so I could move on quickly. It didn't sell and took months. Those months of not having a clue of 'what next' almost killed me. They definitely frightened me to death.

To my surprise, my life has moved on so much since then and I have too. I am sure it will be the same for you in the end. I think that 'overwhelming stage' you go through is one to really reflect on 'what next'. I think it's a stage where you can't sit there waiting for it to happen. I did. And nothing happened. All the problems and feelings of emptiness just grew.

In that time, I started to visualise more clearly the kind of life I wanted for myself, ON MY OWN. I haven't wasted time visualising my life with someone else. Making my children happy and being happy inside myself and on my own is my first priority. And it's happened.

That terrifying feeling that my life is over has been replaced with a sense of a new life just beginning. I've also learned to accept my life. If it goes no further than where it is at right now, I could be very happy!

I wish you all the best and hope so much that things will turn your way.

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