Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
We have been married for 19 years and after I had suspicion that he was cheating I kicked my husband out of the house. After a few days I decided that I couldn't just give up without trying every option possible (I love him). I asked if we could seek counseling but he said no. He said he loves me but doesn't want to be treated like "a puppet" being forced out of his house. I've also told him I would "give in" on a few things that I wouldn't budge on in years even though I know it bothered him(problems with his family). He still said NO. Putting all this together I feel that by me kicking him out was just his "open door" to leave. Now he doesn't have to say he left me. We have two children, ages 18(will be starting college in the fall) & 16. My question is this...Can the judge order us into counseling since we have so many years invested and since he has admitted to still loving me? I don't know for sure if it would help or not but I can't bring myself to give up without knowing I did everything I could to make it work. We live in Indiana. Any help would be great. Thanks!