[quote] Would they escort you when you try to pick them up as long as you have documentation? [/quote]
The first part is getting them to try to enforce the order. If the police will make an attempt then they will controle the situation and keep you back to reduce the risk of an argument. Keep in mind that she can say no to them and they can't do anything but make a report, so do not get to upset. It's just part of the game. She will feel like she is the one in controle if that does happen and it may get worse, so document everything and get copies of the reports.