The mother and my son do not communicate,I am the messanger,have been for these three years.I do not want to go on vacation without the kids.I simply wanted to know legally what can be done since I do not have a lawyer and there are no court papers yet.Can he take the kids out of state and not have her get him for kidnapping?They have joint right now since she originally agreed to that and they havnt went to court yet.My son isnt controlling me,my love for my grandchildren is...