Divorce Support Forums: So disgusted! Feedback please!

[quote]Just seemed a little unfair that the state will prosecute him to the hilt if the kids and I were receiving state assistance and fail to intercede at all on our behalf as we do not receive assistance as medical costs are exorbitant. [quote]

If you were on assistance, they'd not let the bills accumulate for 12 years before pursuing him! It's going to be tough to pursue that part of this. The jerk needs to pay his support and you probably should have asked for an increase in support, demanded to know his pay increases, at least 6 times in the past 12 years, but as far as paying 12 year old doctor visits, that's going to be really tough to convince a judge to give you.

I'd not be surprised if this is the reason behind the state child support enforcement's policy on that... they simply don't wnat to be sifting through individual bills and figuring out what part and when and interest and ... whether each individual bill was an allowable necessary expense or whether you're trying to charge your ex for an unagreed upon optional medical bill.

Talk to ChatterBox on this forum. His daughter has huge problems and it's very expensive. He finally had to take custody over from his ex and she's supposed to pay part of the bills, and even though he collects them and presents them in a much more timely way than you have done, there have been huge snafus in getting them properly accounted for.

The problem of medical bills is huge and common, and you're not the only one dealing with it. I feel sorry for any parent who has a kid with such serious medical problems and an ex who refuses to contribute. For waiting 12 years, you might have a bigger paperwork nightmare to straighten out than most do, but at least you may be able to find some emotional support and agreement from others that it's not easy. You are not the only one who has huge scary issues over medical bills. Some people are able to get thier situations solved, but others aren't. Good luck and let us know how it goes for you.

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