I know that and I really wanted to stay out of the middle but I kept thinking that by helping out from time to time that I would somehow gain someones respect.Unfortunately the very reverse has happened.I have high blood pressure diabetes and have been told that I am on the verge of a stroke and do you think they try to make it easier,of course not.She wont talk to him about the children,she has sent her messages via ME and now she is telling him that she hasnt said this or that.She is invited to almost everything that this family does and do you think she would invite my hubby and me to anything other the childrens birthdays.NO...anyway I am a bit upset with her right now.I have ask her if the children could go on vacation for the weekend and she acts like I ask her for one of their lungs.Yes they have went with us plenty of times.We even took her and the children to gatlinburg in october,but she has to think about letting our son,their father take them with us going along as well.