Thank you all for the suggestions and support. This is in IL. Unfortunately, the kids already have the experience of seeing cops brought into this ugly situation. The weekend before last Christmas, she gave me 1 hour to pick up the rest of my belongings from the house or have them put out on the curb at midnight. When I arrived, she started in with "you have to take off your shoes in the house, you can't use that door, etc..." Then she started berating me and rehashing all the issues surrounding the divorce. This was all in front of my 4yo son who was asking, "Daddy can you play with me?" and my 10yo daughter who was within earshot upstairs. When I started to argue back, she called the police claiming I was "becoming very violent" -- not even close! I sat out on the front stoop and called my lawyer while she continued to throw my things out the front door. My lawyer told me to leave because the cops might just take her word and arrest me and I would spend Christmas in jail, so I left and cried all the way back to my apartment. My daughter later told me the police did show up. Since then she will only let me pick up and drop off the kids at McDonald's, as if I were some dangerous criminal.
Now she is fighting with me over summer vacations. Even though the JPA her attorney drafted clearly stated that the parent who has the children on the weekends of Memorial Day and Labor gets to keep them the whole long weekend, she is accusing me of being unfair for holding her to that. I happened to have the kids for visitation Memorial Day and am scheduled to have them Labor Day. This will alternate in the coming years. For July 4th, the JPA states we alternate ODD (her) and EVEN (me) years, which means I am supposed to get them this year, and the 5th-7th happens to be my visitation weekend as well. Yet, she is demanding I give her Labor Day weekend if I take the 4th-7th this coming weekend.
Here's the kicker -- she already told my daughter they would go to Mall of America for the 4th of July weekend and then told her "Daddy won't let us go." It's such a mess. I would just give her Labor Day if it weren't for a big family reunion we have planned that weekend (about 70 people) for my parents' 83rd and 86th birthdays. All this started just because I asked to take the kids for a week for a summer vacation, which is my right within the JPA. That's when all the fuzzy math about summer holidays and makeup days, etc. started -- all of course calculated to be in her favor. She already took the kids to Disney for a week at the begining of the summer and has a cruise planned in August. All I'm asking for is one lousy week! She's changing all the rules because she hasn't signed the JPA (even though I already did).
This is just another in a series of petty and nitpicky things she has been fighting me tooth and nail on since this all started. She doesn't care how much it costs in attorney fees since she makes a lot of dough (2x my salary in fact). She has already stated several times she intends to drive me to bankruptcy. Sorry this was so long. Just had to vent...
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