Also, about a year ago when I realized that I was becoming unhappy with my marriage. I tried to start doing things for myself, because I had for the prior 5 years put all of me into my marriage and kids and hadn't really been taking care of me.
My husband is very very insecure and this didn't go over well with him. When ever I get myself pampered or anything like that he thinks that I must be cheating on him. I am mature enough to realize that having personal space and time is important so I have continued and he gets the same space and freedoms in return.