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My husband filed for divorce about 3 1/2 months ago. We are still trying to get the custody issue resolved, but I want to start the actual divorce proceedings. He hasn't started any type of post-nuptial agreements. He asked me if I talked to my lawyer about divorce. Since he filed, shouldn't he be the one to initiate the proceedings? I don't even think he wants a divorce. He only filed to get me to beg him to take me back and now that I haven't he doesn't know what to do. I live in PA...can anyone give me some advice? Thanks...

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Well, just from this information, I would say figure out what it is you need/want out of this relationship, THEN, talk to him about it and be willing to hear out what HE wants/needs. I dont know details of your relationship. Maybe theres more, but if a relationship is salvageable and theres two people with feelings left for each other, anything can be worked out if both are willing to give and take. Unless either one of you have already emotionally checked out, theres cheating or abuse I wouldnt suggest a divorce right away.

We all deal differently with stress or frustrations of knowing how life is suppose to pan out. Its not right to up and leave your family, but theres always two sides. I say that meaning theres always things to work on on both sides. Not, that both sides are guilty.

Just suggestions. There is a difference, as stated above, in "starting the divorce proceedings", and being served. More details would help.

Good luck.

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Edited by saamrodi (07/03/08 11:13 PM)

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