Unlike child support, spousal support is often very difficult (if not impossible) to modify after the divorce is final, so getting it right the first time is a must!
I hear you sister. My stbx is requesting alimony. NJ's rules sukk. Just because I've made significantly more our entire marriage, he could actually get it. I am the CP of our child. I've been carrying all our mortagages by myself for 18 months. I've not gotten a dime in CS. and he can still ask for alimony due to the constant income differences. Granted, stbx has the capability to earn plenty and survive on his own. he doesn't need any rehab time. He's just plain greedy. I almost throw up every time I think about this. Never live in NJ. The courts here sukk.