Divorce Support Forums: Snakes and ladders

If you find yourself wondering why you constantly go forward and then back to feeling bad again, then this might put a lot in perspective for you.

I've recently read something that talks about the 'Snakes and Ladders Recovery' of something traumatic like divorce.

Some people shake the dice and get to the top of the 'divorce recovery board' in four moves. Others can journey up and down the board, seemingly not making progress. Or they make big progress, only to hit a major snake and slide to the bottom again.

'Ladders' are described as counselling, relaxation, group support and antidepressants - things which can help you get to the top of the board a lot faster.

'Snakes' are described as panic, depression, alcohol & drugs, anniversaries and non-acceptance of your pain and feelings by others - the things which will drag you down and possibly even drag you down a long way.

One last thing I took out of it was not feeling the need to reach 'square 100'. Anywhere in the top row is a good place to be as we all change and adapt from the pain/experience of what we have been through.

Hope this is useful to you. It puts things in persepctive for me. The identification of 'snakes' and 'ladders' also gives you core things to focus on.

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