Divorce Support Forums: How to shake a case of the blahs?

hi clem.
i was oot earlier this week and couldnt reply.
but this post was on my mind the past day.

i hope you are feeling better!
(i personally find any alcohol to be fine for a momentary cure, but im often MORE sad the next day, so if im a bit down, alcohol works against me. just a thought.)

back to the issue.

i think you have been doing SO well post divorce.
you have tackled challenges with gusto.
possibly with tears or anger, but still in the end
you had a job, did it, and you look back and smile with victory at your accomplishments! KUDOS!

all the parts in your control you have done, and
done well.

i think this latest bit of feeling 'down' is due to
the girlfriend in your ex's life.
and not only the girlfriends existence, but
the kids being around her is tough too.

some point in the beginning of my process i read that facing the ex had a new Sign. Other is rough.
(along with a mess of other things well have to face in the coming years).
Knowing the marriage is over is all dealt with,
but a new person in your ex's life is another issue altogether.

and while you WANT (truely!) your kids to like and be liked by the new person, it is still VERY hurtful and freaking irritating. i mean part of you (and me and im sure others) wishes the kids would do nasty stuff like what you see on tv...you know worms, snakes, spitting...whatever... LOL>
but in reality that would not play out well for the kids.
so...you know.

anyhow
i think a couple of down days after dealing with this is normal and will pass (for you, anyhow,as you deal very well with things) very quickly.

hang in there.
thinking of you.
taryn.

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taryn.

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