Divorce Support Forums: anyone ever had a suicidal spouse?

Background: married 5 years, i child, 4 years old. yes, i married him b/c I was pregnant....but he had already asked me before we found out I was pregnant. We had been together on/off for 5 years dating and had been broken up for about 4-5 months b/c he had cheated on me with someone from work. He told me he regretted in and it was a mistake, but I broke it off anyway. He kept coming around and we eventually started to date again, and then BAM -- pregnant. So...we have had some good times and some bad times, in the last year or so mostly bad times. I had post pardum depression pretty bad and mourned the loss of my old life a lot after our son was born, but eventually snapped out of it and we were okay for a while. Now I think he is the one who is depressed. He hates his job, but feels trapped with no options out. He has been tired and cranky and on a short fuse, picking at me constantly until i feel horrible all the time. Just today he was storming about the house on a rampage and started screaming that he just doesn't want to be alive anymore and that he thinks about killing himself every day--what would be the easiest way, what would hurt the least, etc...then he stomped outside and cried on the back porch. He came back in, got in the shower, dressed for work and left. He just called me on the phone and told me he feels really bad that he said all of those things in front of our son. I agreed, but told him that I think (as I have said many times) that he/we need to go talk to somebody and that maybe he might need to have some antidepressants....he is so unreceptive to the idea, i don't know what else to do. I feel like I am on a sinking ship here, and have recently been tempted myself to have sort of an emotional affair....I guess I just feel like there is only so much I can do for someone who doesn't want help or to help themselves...but now that he has mentioned suicide I am scared for his life. What do I do now? do I rat him out to a therapist even though he doesn't want help? tell his parents? any advice welcome, sorry for the ramble, I am a little freaked. I feel selfish but this is breaking me down too.

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