I think sometimes people view dating differently. To me at this stage it's more important to go out and get your mind off things and have a good time. You have to do something for you at this point. If that means a date so be it. But think do think of the other person, they will not want to here your sad story. If you can't go out and not talk about the X or the divorce then your probly not ready. Going out to a bar to meet people and have a good time isn't really a date. Go do something for you.