as Gigi said -- looking at WHY you are not ready to date is important. I too am not ready yet. For me ... it is NOT about wanting to be with my ex. It is about making sure that I can trust ME. That I can trust my newfound barriers and boundaries.
Are you not ready because you are making sure that your new life is stable? Are you making sure that you can count on you? Just having troubles finding someone? or has Gigi said, is it more out of a desire for your ex?
-------------------- Today you are You, that is truer than true. There is no one alive who is Youer than You.
Dr. Seuss