Divorce Support Forums: atty said maybe i'm offering too much support

[quote]It's her job to get the alimony. I wouldn't offer anything. [/quote]

but my wife's atty hasn't called her back in a month and i'm tired of waiting for him. Maybe you'd be happy sitting here next to her while he gets his butt in gear but i'm not. He literally hasn't asked her for any financial data whatsoever. So if, as you say, i wait for her to ask..it literally could be 'forever'

so i went to my atty and said hey i need to get this moving, i cant wait, i'm tired of her living with me. Also she's clearly stated she wants all this settled before she moves out so unless she changes her tune, i really dont think i'll be doing that pre D alimony thing

so the reason i am even offering is because i want to get SOME kind of response from her atty and her. I need to start the fight. (her atty never even responded to the filing!!!!!!) This is how i do things in my job too...when people dont respond, i tell them they owe me huge sums of money and that gets them to produce documents and start negotiating in a hurry lol. so in this case ill lowball the atty and of course he will want more..but on the off case they accept, im happy with it.

Also my atty asked me what i wanted to offer. I think that's a reasonable thing to do. She didnt balk at the 600, but did say the length of time i offered was long. So maybe ill cut back on that to 6 years. Dont' forget, medical is a BIG deal for my wife and i'm sure her atty will know that her insurance will be costing 400+ a month and asking for more than that. So i figured i should offer a bit more than that 400 . i dont wanna insult her and make her/them get more resolve.

as far as my atty's advice, she told me before i'm very likely looking at perm alimony (i always ask what she would do if she was my wife's atty) and she told me that the judges unfortunately use the PRE D alimony number (1100) as a basis for the post D number. So my theory is offer something good enough that her atty will tell her hey, this is better than the standard in the county (and also he will see it as a way to get rid of her since he's obviously not interested in the case) and that maybe she should ask for a little more but the length is reasonable

and my atty told me should this go to master, all pre master negotiations arent admissible so we start from scratch there (ie i dont have to worry about what i offered before screwing me)

as far as the house, i told my atty i'd gladly pay more for the house (assuming i get a good refi) but a proportional decrease in alimony so i can pay the higher mortgage. She wanted me to get an appraisal but i said no, i'm not paying for 2 appraisals (one for her guy, one for the mortgage guy i actually turn out using) PLUS dont forget my wife wont trust those numbers anyway and she will be getting one i'm sure.

so i figured i'd offer my wife 10K and let her tell me what she wants. She wont say anything about what she wants so there's "nothing' to fight about now and that ticks me off! lets fight already!

then there is the tiny chance when her mom comes this week they will fire that atty and find a new one...but i cant imagine too many are willing to make housecalls and he was close to our house. So we shall see

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call me WWIL...PA resident 39 year old , married 11 years, together 12...splitting in 13th year.

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