Gigi, your right in regards to this also pertaining to dad being cheap...I guess I get frustrated directly with step-mom cause she's the one e-mailing, yet I should realize too that it's dads contribution. That's where allowing the step-mom to be SOOO involved ends up reflectly poorly directly on herself in my perceptions since I forget that my ex is standing next to her. Interesting how that works when an ex-spouse isn't so worked up over having to deal with the new spouse of the ex and instead lets them be involved. I need to work better at seperating the fact that she has to be involved to a certain extent since she is a major influence in that household and holding my ex responsible for his own choices. It's the word games that get me, everything gets twisted. I know that the next agreement will not contain any "items".