I know that a divorce would be nothing short of hard and messy, although we have talked about it in the past and do agree that we would work together to make it right with the kids. I guess in reality I am just not sure when to say enough is enough. We don't have combined finances, it's always his money and his stuff, he drinks more frequently than most. I get screamed at if I take the kids out to do something fun, as opposed to staying home cleaning 24/7. He refuses to help out around the house, not even yard work unless it's after a fight. I guess when it comes down to it I feel like I am doing it alone already. I almost feel like the kids could possible benefit from a divorce, because then their father would be forced to spend time with them on his own.