I think your hubby wants to have his cake and eat it too. I would read some self help books, join some support groups for women in abusive relationships, learn how to start loving yourself again. Look up a couple of legal aid atty.'s ( I took a small equity loan out to pay for mine), file, and just do it. He will tell you anything you want to hear, even that he wants to get back together to get you not to do this via the court system. But as soon as you believe his crap and accept him back, he knows he's got the edge and he will keep doing what he's doing. Be prepared for hard times. I ultimately filed bankruptcy, it was tough for a while, but I would rather live in a one bedroom apt. with 5 kids than continue to live w/someone who has no love or respect for me.
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