Divorce Support Forums: an unbiased opinion please....

I have to agree w/ chatterbox. The judge is most likely not going to believe that he's "sleeping on the couch". Your STBX is very angry and he has every intention of taking that anger out on you. First, even if you have to move into a one bedroom apt., and you sleep on the couch and the girls take the room, you need to do that. You need to collect every bit of documented proof of your STBX's temper and illegal activities (show a pattern of behavior),if he kept consistent employment during the marriage and made decent money...pull every income tax return and bank statement you can find to show that he can keep a job and get a job that pays well b/c I guarantee he's going to cry poor in court and state that he can't keep a job. I would turn down nothing! Trust me, my eldest's dad (HS Sweetheart, never married), Fla tried to raise his CS from $235.00 a month to $1400 a month (they had severely slacked in keeping up w/him in a 10 year period), all those years of me struggling, moving every 8 mos. b/c I couldn't afford the rent, never knowing that he was making 6 figures. He came to me and cried, begged, pleaded, promised he wanted to be in our daughter's life, blah, blah, blah. I gave in knowing how desperate my daughter was to have a relationship w/ her dad, signed a paper taking it out of the state's hands and agreed to $700 a month via a personal atty. Did he see her after that???? NOPE. Do I regret my decision, no...if I would have let the state stick it to him, he would have blamed me for his lack of participation and she would have too, by doing what I did, she saw her dad for what he really was. I know, TMI...what I mean is, do what you have to do NOW to protect and take care of your girls, put any emotional weaknesses aside.

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