Divorce Support Forums: postnuptial agreement

Hi, sorry for the long post. This is like my life story these days. I am so glad I bumped in to this one. I work full time and make good money. See for last six months my husband (we have children from previous marriage, none together), pushing me to sign an agreement document, which he nicely put that what will happen to kids if we die, I liked the idea, but then he defined a divorce scenario too, where I freaked to and said why do we have this, are you planning for divorce, he said no no , it is just incase we part our ways. He has way with words, wraps things around. I told him I am very uncomfortable with this. So we had a fight, then it went away, after few months it came back again, I had same reaction, so we got into worst fight, he threatened me to file for divorce, and stopped talking to me for a month and asked his mom to cook and do things for him (BTW she lives with us(another problem)). I couldn' take the silent treatment, so I said OK let me see what do you want, I asked him few questions around his scenarios, but he didn't have any answers, he told me to talk to his lawyer who is preparing this agreement document which is actually a post nup. I talked to his lawyer and asked questions like my husband wants me to sign off my rights over his 401K, his life insurance, plus he wants me to sell everything and split everything in 50% and give to his kid right away, if something happnes to him, what will happen to me, she said she can't counsel me and I need to have my own attorney. I told my husband about it, then we got in to another fight, becuase now he says he can't trust me, he thought I will sing this document, so I asked him send me the copy of the document, when I saw it in black and white (so far it was all words), I modifed it to make sure it will be harder to get divorce, plus we both assign something for each otehr, so he again said no more deal and he is filing for divorce.SO here after six months I am getting divorce every other week from him, or he doesn't talk to me, or some other kind of abuse. SO FINALLY three days ago, I informed him honey don't worry too much anymore, just to make things easier on you, I am filing for the divorce. I finally head it with him, and I didn't sign anything.

Please don't sign anything, true reason will come out why does he want you to do this in the first place, if marrige is rocky then work on marrige, this is what I told my husband, save the marriage, don't run to save money, if that is what you are after than live with your money, your wife will leave you in a heart beat.

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