Wow! Unreal. I don't know if you still check for replies to this but first of all to have an affair with women from the church....What kind of church are you going to? In my church both parties would most likely be asked to leave. From my past experience which was similiar once they cheat they will do it again. My ex had an affair with his co-worker and moved out only to move back in later saying he wanted to work it out but I caught him with her again. I filed for divorce and we just worked it out ourselves first with who would get what and pay for which things. He drug his feet so I filed for divorce and had him served. If you haven't done so already, I would file, according to the Bible you have the right.