Divorce Support Forums: Newly seperated

i am newly separated also. my husband and i had been married for almost six years. about 8 months ago he started hanging with a much younger crowd became less affectionate towards me and so on. i made the tragic mistake of seeking that in another man. it took only once with him to see this is not the answer. i did not tell my husband and threw myself into the marriage. he became more and more distant. staying the weekend at friends houses being gone until late several nites during the week. in april i notice the same number repeatedly showing up on the phone bill and confronted him. he admitted he was talking to a "girl friend" but nothing was going on. i told him either stop talking to her or he needed to leave and figure out what he wanted. he left and continued to call and etc. in june i told him it was time to either continue to divorce or come home and we work on it. after a long talk of me admitting my infidelity and him admitting he had slept with a friend around christmas and did have a relationship with the "girl friend" while we were apart even though he had denied it we decided to try again. two weeks ago he became distant again. i asked had he started talking to her again. he said she had called and told him she had cancer. and i was like how is this your problem. he then said he could not stop thinking about me being with that guy and felt bad i could forgive and move on and he couldn't. so he left again but not without saying i'm not saying in 3 months or 6 months we may be able to get back together but i don't want you to sit around and wait on me. and i wanted to say then why did you say that. my friends and family say i should not let him back. i should move on. but that so much easier said than done. i can't see myself being with anyone else. anyway.... sorry for the long post. how do i move one???

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