Divorce Support Forums: feeling the money crunch & in poor taste comment

[quote]My husband & I disagree about this one. He says your husband was probably reasonably trying to share his concerns and expressing a little bit of cold feet in relation to the current financial concern and wanting to let you konw that he takes full responsibility for the decision, which he thinks might not have been at the right time.

I agree with you that it was insensitive and it doesn't matter how much he wants to share his feelings of cold feet with you and take blame for something he thinks might have been a decision made at the wrong time... that what the HECK did he want you to do? You have to figure out how to HAVE this baby in peace and not deal with his cold feet.

***I think he panicked when he looked at our bank account, realizing all our mortgages were about to debit and didn't think before he spoke.
I was surprised at the whole thing because just the night before he was talking about buying another foreclosure. I've been really digging my heels in stating "no, not right time as we need to get this other stuff straight first". He sees potential for the future earnings on it and I see it as we need to focus on what needs to be done right now as we have enough on our plate.
The comment just rings in my ears still. I know that he's not used to being in such a tight money situation and he feels responsible for allowing it to get this way...he said he shouldn't have told me which I disagree, I needed to know I just didn't need the additional comment which is what put me in tears.***

(Quote)He might not end up gettign to take all the time off for the new baby that you had hoped, but in the grand scheme of things, in the tough economy, isn't that what men have always done? Sacrificed their ability to relax with the family in order to support the family?

***I don't think he has a problem with working during that time, that's on me. I'll have to get over it. Yes on cutting back on extras, where that's possible. I hope this stupid tenant comes through tomorrow with the $3000+ money that she owes us. She got more than $5000 from her employer to pay us, but that doesn't mean she is going to.***

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