Divorce Support Forums: PLEASE HELP

I moved out October 2004 of my wife's condo, and moved out with my son (8yrs old) because of her alcoholism and threats. After I moved out, she filed for divorce. She claimed I had some of her property. I gave back ALL the items she stated as it was just 2 items-table and chairs, and not worth the trouble. Unfortunately I filed a response. I have never had an attorney on this divorce as we werent supposed to fight. They set a case management conference for 1/05 because I responded, even though there were no issues left to contest. Her attorney brokered a deal for her to repay the health insurance that my work deducts from my check. It would be a hardship for me, if she does not repay, as I am the custodial parent with sole custody of my son with no child support from bio-mom. She soon after negotiating this agreement, she released her attorney. Apparently the deal was never filed in court, though she has paid me for 16 months, until now. In this time she has stayed in the same condo she lived prior to marriage (rental), has not looked or found a job, and lives off a considerable inheritance. I was told if no party contested, neither party needed to show up to conference back in 1/05, which neither did. The case was put on hold. I thought the divorce would be final after 6 months of the filing in March 05. Soon after I found out that I wasnt divorced I filed papers. I was sent back the papers 2 months later, stating I used the wrong form. Again in September, I filed again thinking this time I had the form correct. Then I found out I am the respondent and cant file papers. In January I had us put back on Calendar for March 13 2006. When she found out, she suddenly became vindictive, not paying the insurance money for February, and since I acted like a "jerk" in her eyes and I abandoned her when I moved, she is going to fight for alimony now. Though when she filed, she never wanted alimony and has lived on her own. She even claims to have supported me during the marriage which I have on email. Along with the, "you're a jerk so I now want alimony" email. I mailed her the papers for an uncontested dissolution, which only require her signature. Some minutes I think she may sign, but, my guess is when she drinks, she wants to "screw me". I can't afford an attorney let alone spousal support. I am the sole parent for my son as his bio-mom has no contact with him (broke his leg and drug fien) and owes me over 24K in child support. I left my second wife the one I speak of,again, because she is an alcoholic, and has called the cops on me when drunk for no reason. They came out, laughed at her drunkeness and I spent the night with my son elsewhere. She threatened to kick me and my son out of the the condo, while on a one week bender spending 3000 at a local hotel. She was renting the condo prior to our marriage and my son and I moved in after marriage. She still lives there now. We also NEVER combined our finances when married. I paid my bills, she paid hers and never had joint credit cards etc. We split all the other bills 50/50. So, now, again I mailed her the dissolution forms. If she signs, we are done, no problem. Otherwise we go to a case management conference on 3/13. I have told her there is nothing to talk about but the divorce, all she wants to talk about is me leaving her, am I seeing anyone, I hurt her, and she always wanted to be married, etc. I am 32 she is 40.

OK, went to court, and the soon to be ex wants to go for alimony, so the courts scheduled a Settlement Offer Conference? What should be expected? The only issue is alimony. See below for more details. I moved out of her condo, with my son from a previous marriage, due to her alcoholism. Our finances were totally separate at all times, as I have sole custody of my son and support him by myself. My ex has not been working, and has not looked for work by her choice. There are no property issues, never combined finances.

ANY ADVICE WOULD BE GREAT!!

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