Divorce Support Forums: She's charging over $1,000 per month!

My wife has been begging for a divorce for at least 5 years. Her mental cruelty was getting to be too much to bear but I stuck it out for the kids. My wife was coached well on this I am finding out. She would tell me that I would have to get 2 jobs to support her and she didn't have to work. Well, the courts are telling her that she does have to go back to work, which is the only thing going my way. The questions I have are: I moved out last July, my wife has credit cards in her name only and is spending over $1,000 per month. My lawyer is telling me that I am responsible for this debt. I cannot stop her and she is having a field day. Is there anything I can do? She does work 30 hours per week, and I also give her $1,900 per month so she does have sufficient money, but as long as I am paying, it is CHARGE IT! The next question I have is that when we filed the papers over a year ago, my lawyer told me that all finances were frozen, all debt and assets would be devided at those amounts. I have since then put $10K in my 401K, now my lawyer is telling me that she gets half of that. So my dilema is that am I getting bad information from my lawyer? According to him, I lost an additional $11,000 to my wife in this last year alone ($5K-401K & $6K-credit). Does anyone have any information or help for me?

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