This is a strange thing. Who doesn't want to see their kids..does he have a g/f and the kids are in his way or what. How old are the kids, boys/girls? How do they feel when he doesn't show up and how do they feel about him in general? Have you ever gone to court on this or the two of you just agreed on stuff. I think you may get more child support if you go to court. They way he says no one is going to tell me to pick up or visit the kids. What a whack job!! post back I'm curious about the kids. I live in CA and they don't mess around with NCP not paying child support. I think you need to get this going through the court because the kids are going to need more as they get older.