mistake#2 this is exactly how my abuse was sporadic it seems every 10 years there was a huge unacceptable episode, however the last decade it occured more than that.
what i had not noticed or realized was that my husband was also being abusive by not helping the family meet it's daily needs.
my kids had gone to bed numerous times with hunger in their stomaches, if not for my family being near by or the assistance of the local shelter we would have never gotten over those times.
He never went a day however without his drugs or alcohol. But telling our daughter she was fat enough to go without eating for a month seemed appropriate to him somehow!
That verbal abuse to her was the worst!!!
YEAH!!! i am so happy he is no longer here, life seems so much clearer, calmer, consistent.
We still struggle but somehow it just isn't as hard with him gone.
thank you ladies for reminding me again i have made the right decision.