Divorce Support Forums: NEWBIE HERE Venting & With Question

Well hello 2 ya'll....
As u'll see I'm a newbie to this here forum. I have only read thru a couple of posts. Looks interesting enough. I like how ya'll seem to be there for one another. My husband and I were married on May 14, 1991 and have a 14 year old wonderful son together. My husband had an affair about 4 years ago, which he ended up moving out with her. Only to come back and forth, which I allowed only becuz I love him and wanted him home with his son and I. Well that went on for around a year then he finally came back home. It had been a total nightmare, the year he was with the other woman. The dealings with her were more than a nightmare in its self. Well here we are again in the year 2006. My husband once again started fooling around with someone. This time it was with a woman we've known for about 10 years. She hadn't ever shown any interest in him until she heard that we might be selling 40 acres of our farmland for a little over a million dollars. Thats when she started coming over everyday, so on and so on. It ended up that I knew he was messing around with her. I went and talk reasonible to her but as soon as I left she called his cell phone. He ended up disappearing the next morning with her. I or our 14 year old son didn't hear from him for aprox. 3 weeks. Then he only called cuz I had put a 'Claim of Lien' on the 40 acres of ours. Well he went in to sign the closing for the land with D.O.T. for one million dollars but couldn't cuz of my lien. He called mad as hell at me. Cussing and cussing at me threating me if I didn't lift the lien right away. Well I finally told him "Don't u know that u get more bees with honey then vinager?" Well after that he hung up only to call back 15 minutes later with a new tatic. He said that he'd let his son and I live in the house until I was to die if I'd lift the lien. I kind of chuckled at that and just so he'd stop bugging me I agreed to go sign the papers tomorrow to lift the lien. Although I didn't. I went in to start the divorce prossedings instead. Well its been a mess since. It ended up that he took me to court 'Motion to show cause' regarding the lien. I lost. The lien was lifted. Well then I was advised that he couldn't get any monies from the property cuz since I was his wife I'd have to sign the papers at the title company too. Well low and behold when he went to the title company and she asked about his wife, he stated to her that he was no longer married. So the million dollars got deposited into his bank account. The lawyer I had hired previously skipped town with what little money that I had to borrow to pay him skipped town. I couldn't find him anywhere. So I had to hire another attorney, which I did. She seems to be a great attorney too, so far. Things have just begun for me. He is trying to say all sorts of things to get out of having to give me or our son any money at all. I just can't understand how I was married to someone that is such a shit! Plz excuse my choice of words there... lol. I mean he has never gave us any money at all other than $100.00. Even when he left he didn't leave us any money at all. I reckon' I should just be glad we're still here in the house, which I am of course. Anyways, my question is this --> I have to fill out a Finantial Declaration and don't know how to do it actually. Do I put my income and expenses simce he has left or do I put what we got before he abandoned us? Will he have to fill out one also besides me? He has all that money in his bank account and I want to make sure that thae Judge sees that and that I have no access to it at all. He has already spent $300,000.00 of the money without setting up any kind of fund for his son or given him any money at all. He gave me $100.00 for groceries right after he had gotten it. I don't think it's him as much as his girlfriend thats being so greedy. I can't believe how badly he appears to have changed cuz of her and the money. Well thank you so much for listening. I kind of just gave ya'll a fast run down of whats happening here in our life. Theres so much more bullshit thats went on besides. Again, thank you for letting me vent and asking that above question :-) Angela

Edited by Ange (10/17/06 05:03 PM)

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