Hi, you should attend Allanon meetings it will give you strength , also get involved in your church of choice , this will also keep you strength, treat him like special Ed :) till you can get a game plan going. My Alcholic husband decided to leave me after 20 years going to be with his kids in FL as he is retiring and I am 12 years younger. It is scary after 20 years and when you are middle aged. Bengalcats anytime you want to chat you can e-mail