I sure hope some of our smart knowledgeable members will respond to you and give you some advice, i just wanted to say how sorry i am you are in such a difficult situation!
This woman sounds like a B*TCH and more............
Make sure you are recording everything that she is doing against the court orders.
I wish you all the best with the situation.
Sounds like the lawyer isn't all that bright, or is there more to your story that we don't know?