I have been married to my marine for nine years. I agree that communication is the key. I knew going into the marriage that my husband was going to make a career out of the military. It is a lot of give and take. My dh is my best friend. I am grateful because we have moved a lot and seen much. I actually enjoy being a military wife. Now, on the other hand, his ex (only married to the woman five years) hated the military life. She considers anyone serving in the military a killer and so beneath her. She has passed that opinion onto my stepson. I have heard him say more than once how he is ashamed of what his Dad does.