It sounds to me like he has a severe case of deppression. What if you can help him with that? What if he gets better will you stick around? Do you still love him. If he was this way from the beginning then he didn't change that is good at least he is consistent.
What if he could be cured?
We are talking here I am curious to where you are? Are you just not in love (if ever) and are looking for justification or is it worth fighting for. Seems like 10 years is the lifecycle of marraige in WA. I am lucky I lasted 12.
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