I am new to the forum, but here is my story. I have will be married for 5 yrs May 27. I have been separated from my husband since oct 2005. we separated because he was having an affair the a co-worker. I found out he moved out filed for divorce In Nov. I was served with papers I told the husband of the women my husband was having the affair with what was going on (yes she was married to a minister) she then ended the affair with my husband and found another job. After the affair ended my husband to me he wanted to work the marriage out we began to talk again and even discussed counseling. January 2006 he says no divorce we are working the marriage out and he is moving back home only he has a 1 yr lease now that he needs to get out of. Things are going well with use still non counseling. But we are doing things together and speanding lots of time together March 22 divorce would be final but we have not done any more paper work. End of March I find out my husband has been having another affair with a married women at our church since December. Now he does not want the marriage says he feels nothing when he is around me and this women (who still lives with her husband makes him happy.) So why didnt he just go thru with the divorce. We have no children together no property nd he does not provide any support to me at all. He did purchase a suv during the marriage and I believed he has financed a chrysler 300 for his mother. I make more money than he does. Where is this going to lead me? can this be considered abandoment? please help!!! We live in a community property state