I am 29 yrs old and my wife(25) and I have been married for 5 years. I have had a vascetomy 2 years ago after the birth of our second child. A couple of months ago she told me she was pregnant. It didn't sit with me so I decided to have a sperm count ran...no sperm! I asked her about it and she lied at first and finally came clean (so I thought) and told me that is was some guy she had dated a long time ago and so on... well she came back two days later and told me it was our PASTOR! While she was getting councel one day , at his house whild his wife was at work! This is just horrifying to me. I trusted this man with every thing I had. She don't ant anything to do with HIM but she wants to keep the baby. He tried to get her to have an abortion and not tell me anything about it. how could this happen? We have never had the perfect marriage. She has lied to me more than she has told the truth throughout this marriage. I just need to talk.