I wonder if anyone would share their experiences in dealing with an X who is still extremely angry after 3 years and uses every opportunity to harass her husband (my boyfriend)? His kids are 17 and 13 year old boys who for 3 years have heard horrible things about their father, she has spared them none of her emotions, she has told them that he left "them" not "her"....the list goes on and on but I think you can get the gist of her mentality. His family and friends say she was never a pleasant person and they were very glad when he finally left her. I've heard nothing positive about her. I've tried to stay open minded knowing how painful divorce is but she continues to act irrationally and mean spirited...I came into the picture when he was divorced for 1 1/2 years. His sons do not want to have anything to do with me. It's making it difficult if not impossible for us to move our relationship on. We've had many successful outings or just hanging out for meals, etc., but then the tide will seem to turn. He is as baffled as I am as to how to proceed. We are together on the fact that we will proceed but I know it hurts him and he worries aboutlosing their affection, etc. Any thoughts or suggestions would be so welcome.....I'm 43, two kids, 18 and 12, divorced myself for 4 years.