Divorce Support Forums: handling a child that is torn between 2 homes

i have always tried to make things easy for her and i have tried to get along with her dad in front of her and with her step mom and they still want to be asses about things. excuse my language! i don't ever bad mouth him in front of her cause i know that's her dad and she loves him and i do the same for her step mom. she doesn't understand why i am nice to them and they bad mouth me. i have tried to explain to her that they have the right to feel about me the way they do and i let her know that i'm not worried about what they say about me. but i just wish they would respect me in front of her b/c i am her mom and she loves me. there are weekends that she doesn't want to go and she litually crys that she doesn't want to go but the courts say i have to send her, but i tell her that she will have fun and that she should go and spend some time with him b/c he is her dad. but she comes back with she sees him too much and that she needs more mommy time. she sees me more then she does him. she goes there every other weekend and every other holiday and then part of her summer vacation from school. so that part of seeing him more then me i don't really understand but i listen to her talk and let her go on. to give an example of how they are. i had taken her in last year for her yearly check up at the doctors office and he was concerned about her weight as well as i and the dr. said to cut her eating and helpings back but not to put her on a diet so i told her dad and step mom about it and they said she doesn't need to loose weight she is fine the way she is. but there is a problem she's 7 yrs old and weighs 96lbs. and she has trouble breathing when shen rides her bike or tries to tie her shoes and it worries me that she's gonna have health problems b/c i have diabetics in my family and some of them are over weight and it worries me that she will get to playing to hard and make the breathing worse (asthma) or maybe have a heart attack or something b/c of it. and he doesn't seem to care about that either.

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