Just a note from experience. Please for youre own sake and the kids do NOT assume that the ex will be nice and fair. I did that and was left in a poor spot but thanks to my parents we are getting along. If you have gone on ( seeing someone else he may bring that up in a custody dispute if that applies,,, that does not matter. the ex may also ask for everything and that you take the bills.. not fair make sure if you are the on that gets the kids that you have some stuff washer dryer fridge. My ex got all that but didnt need it ( was renting a furnished place from his attorney) Make sure he is off the accounts. You plan to keep and that it is stated the one person cannot charge on the credit of the other , my ex did that to even though he wasnt supposed to. he lied to his attorney and said it was his credit card. Not sure what youre situation is but protect yourself yes you can do this without being greedy.. Remember what you had before the marriage is yours.Everything should be split equally but sometimes in the state of mind you will be in at the time you may overlook that . I did all I was worried about was custody of my kids. If you need to sent me a note.