just my opinion, i knew my xwife and I had communication problems throughout most of the marriage, and knew that when the time came to explain to our daughters why we where getting divorced, that we may not of explained it properly or said the right words, it worried me, so I sought the help of a family counsler, kidzmatter of enfield, ct- we used the counsler as sort of a coach to guide us through such a senstive subject- it worked great, i still take the girls every other week, and although the divorce isnt final, my daughters are emotionally stable and have adjusted to mommy having a boyfriend and daddy eventually dating and moving on- (this has been over the course of about 1 yr)